Strategies for a Smooth School Comeback: Easing Neurodivergent Kids Back Into Routine

The holiday season often brings a welcome change of pace, but for neurodivergent children, returning to the structure of school after a break can be challenging. The shift back into routines can feel overwhelming, especially when sensory and executive functioning needs are at play. Here are some strategies to make the transition smoother for your child and your family:

1. Start Early

Begin reintroducing parts of the school routine a few days before the break ends. Gradually shift wake-up and bedtime schedules to align more closely with school hours. This gives your child’s body and mind time to adjust without the added pressure of a rushed morning.

2. Visual Schedules and Social Stories

Use visual schedules to outline what the school day will look like. Better yet, have your child recreate their school schedule using as many (or few) colors and visuals as they’d like! For younger children or those who benefit from storytelling, create a social story about returning to school. Highlight positive aspects like seeing friends or favorite activities to build anticipation and reduce anxiety.

3. Preview the Environment

If possible, visit the school before the first day back. Walking through the hallways, seeing the classroom, or even meeting with teachers can provide a sense of familiarity and comfort. If visiting isn’t an option, look at photos or videos of the school to help your child mentally prepare.

4. Prepare the Senses

Sensory needs often amplify during transitions. Pack a sensory toolkit for school, such as noise-canceling headphones, fidget toys, or a weighted lap pad. At home, provide opportunities for calming sensory input like deep-pressure hugs, swinging, or quiet time in a sensory-safe space.

5. Practice Morning Routines

The chaos of mornings can be stressful for anyone, especially neurodivergent children (and adults!). Practice the steps of your morning routine—getting dressed, eating breakfast, and packing their bag—to create predictability and reduce surprises. Getting in the habit of packing their bags the night before and choosing an outfit for the next day could be helpful.

6. Communicate With the School

Let your child’s teacher or support staff know about their potential challenges with reentry. Share strategies that work at home, and collaborate to create a plan for easing your child back into the classroom setting.

7. Offer Choices and Control

Transitions often feel less daunting when children have some sense of control. Let them choose small things, such as what to wear, what to pack for lunch, or which book to take to school. This autonomy can help reduce resistance and build confidence.

8. Focus on Connection

Spend time connecting with your child before and after school. Morning snuggles, a favorite breakfast, or an after-school chat about their day can provide reassurance and emotional regulation during this period of adjustment. Many neurodivergent children experience after-school meltdowns, so be proactive about this especially during the first week back! Plan for your child to have what they need when they arrive home after school, whether that’s time outside, quiet time in their rooms, or a snack and time to share about their day with loved ones. If your child needs a break before starting on homework, try setting a timer and letting them decompress before getting them started on homework.

9. Use a Gradual Approach

If your child finds it difficult to jump back into full days, explore options for a gradual reentry, such as starting with half days or shorter assignments. Work with the school to accommodate this need if possible.

10. Be Patient and Flexible

Transitions take time, and there may be setbacks along the way. Offer empathy and reassurance if your child struggles. Validate their feelings, and celebrate small victories as they readjust to their routine. This may sound like “I know, going back to school after a long break is SO hard.  It’s hard for me to go back to work too.” Remember – validating feelings does not mean allowing them to stay home because it’s hard to go back to school – they can do hard things (and you parents can do hard things too)!

Returning to school after a break doesn’t have to be overwhelming. With preparation, communication, and a supportive approach, you can help your neurodivergent child navigate this transition with confidence and ease. If you need additional guidance or support, Redwood Counseling & Wellness is here to help. Contact us today to learn more about our services for neurodivergent children and families.